By Busta Brown
The feeling of rejection for many adults can lead to an emotional breakdown. So, imagine how alone and empty a child must feel, as well as the strain it has on their character and self-esteem.Â
âIn elementary I sucked my thumb for comfort, so I didnât go outside much to play with other kids. I was also a speech baby. When the teacher would come pull me out of class, I didnât understand why I was pulled away from the other students. So, I looked at that as rejection. I didnât understand it until I started my career in special education.Â
âNow as an adult, I understand that it was Godâs way of showing me that if you spell the word rejection out, the word âejectâ is in rejection. God has ejected me from an unhealthy relationship, which was the ejector. And God placed me where I needed to be, and now Iâm able to move into my calling,â shared Swynette.Â
Youâve heard it said, âA family that prays together, stays together.â Every Sunday, Swynette Stone and her family did just that. âAfter Sunday service we still came home as a family. We would gather in the living room, read scriptures and then prayed together. Keeping God first was the most critical foundation that my parents instilled in me as a child. So as an adult, that foundation is solid,â she said.Â
God used those childhood feelings of rejection and molded Stone into the phenomenal woman that she is today. The sweet spirited mother of two has become somewhat of a guardian angel in her 23 years in special education. âI see a need to be a bridge as an extended parent. I see so many students coming to school where the parent is not available for one reason or another. So, the grandparents and foster parents are providing care for the students. My goal is to tap into and provide early intervention with young ladies, so they can know their value, the power of their voice, and worth.âÂ
In 2019, in her efforts to build character and confidence in people of all ages. Stone gave the audience at Winston-Salem Fashion Week an unforgettable moment with âUP CLOSE.â One of the most memorable was the childrenâs tale, âThe Ugly Duckling,â which is the story behind her designs. She was very open about her experiences of rejection at a very young age and used âThe Ugly Ducklingâ to inspire and empower her audience.Â
Swynette Stone is also the owner of Swan Teâ Designs, Noveâ Impressions and Accoutre Bridal Boutique. The genuine love for her students goes far beyond the building. Stonesâs company Swan Teâ Designsâ fashion shows are a must see. She brings the vibe, fashion and energy of New York Fashion Week to the Triad. Itâs an amazing sight to see! Her designs are comparable to the top designers in Paris.Â
But the scenes that will melt your heart, âsome of my models come straight from the special education program. I challenge them to get on the runway and it is amazing to see what it does to lift their self-esteem. And they rip the runway! I mean they rip it! That means a lot to me because of my feelings of rejection at such a young age.Â
âOne of my students is now an adult and married with three kids. Sheâs also an amazing spokesperson. So, parents, letâs start early with intervention and our girls will know their self-worth and the power of their voice,â shared an emotional Swynette.Â
Swynette has been doing Godâs work since 1998. Her beauty salon, Styles from Heaven, partnered with the Salvation Army womenâs shelter and the community to provide mothers with fresh hairstyles for job interviews. âEven back then my goal has always been about building confidence, self-worth, job readiness, appearance, education, and beauty enhancement.âÂ
Currently, her company, Noveâ Impressions, provides full service professional planning for weddings, event coordination, event decor and designs. Along with a variety of packages to accommodate your dream of love.Â
Stone caught the fashion bug one day while watching her aunt sewing and braiding hair. âMe, my sister and cousin had the opportunity to be a part of the marching groups at the YMCA with Mo Lucas. We needed uniforms and my aunt was a seamstress. From that day I saw her sewing those uniforms, I always wanted to be like my aunt.Â
âIn addition to that, my mom and dad didnât have much money, but mom knew how to take nothing and made sure all seven of her children were freshly dressed and kept our hair looking good. She knew how to bring our clothes to life, because if it didnât fit, she knew how to make it fit like it was bought from the store. So, my aunt and my mom were my inspirations to do what I do today.âÂ
It was during middle school when Swynette really tapped into her gift. âMy mom would dress my sister and I like twins and I didnât like that. So, I started dressing how I felt. I always stood out because my style was different, because I didnât keep up with the trends. I am the trend,â boasts Stone.Â
After graduating from high school, she attended North Carolina A&T University. During that time, she faced a few challenges. âThere was no fashion program there. So, A&T tried to give me classes that were close to fashion merchandise and design. I was there for a year and got pregnant, so I had to come home, and that was a huge challenge,â she said with a heavy heart. It was crystal clear as I looked into her eyes that she was still saddened by the situation.Â
The brilliant Winston-Salem native has earned a degree in sociology from Salem College in Winston-Salem. Pursuing her special education interest, she continued her studies at Grand Canyon University, earning a masterâs degree in special education in 2005. Yet, the fire was still burning to obtain a degree in fashion merchandise and design.Â
As youâve read thus far, sheâs a fighter and quitting is not an option. So, whatâs next? âThirty years later at the age of 56, I will be enrolled in college soon. Itâs never too late,â said Swynette. Sheâs a perfect example of naturally gifted and an inspiration to anyone with a dream, hard work, and of course, prayer.Â
âI put God first in everything I do. So, I trusted God and just started sewing. No classes, and no type of training. Itâs just a gift and my ministry. I use my designs on the runway to minister to people. I love telling my story to people that are hurting like I did. Iâm a storytelling fashion designer. I heard someone say, fashion is a way of speaking without saying anything,â she said with a soft and sweet smile.Â
Whatâs Swynetteâs favorite scripture? âPsalm 23! But thereâs a difference in knowing the word and applying it. As an adult, I also understand it.âÂ
My phenomenal Woman of the Week is Swynette Stone.Â